My Mother’s Sewing Box

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I just left my 14- year old daughter at the same camp that I went to for two months for fifteen summers of my life.   It’s her first time, only a 2-week stint, but the thought of her walking the same grounds that I walked, sleeping in the same bunk that I did, smelling the same smells unique to that special place, is filling me with a special kind of joy.  The camp posts pictures on their website every day and I obsessively scan them, and when I spot her, I try to analyze her smile to see if it’s genuine joy or just forced fun.  I went through the pictures with my ex-husband over the phone and asked him if he thought they were real smiles.  It didn’t help that he couldn’t tell either.  (Since this post was written just yesterday, two day’s worth of pictures have been posted and no fake smiles, only joy.) It’s only been three days but I can’t wait until noon when the pictures are posted from the day and night before.  Not being able to speak to her for five more days is leaving me slightly apoplectic.

Growing up, a critical piece of preparing for camp, was watching my mother sew name “tapes” on each article of clothing, not just for me, but for my brother and sister as well.  When the time came for her to start doing this, before our massive trunks were whisked away by a somewhat elusive trucking company, the excitement would build.  Camp was just around the corner.

My mother’s sewing box was an utter disaster.  It did not look like this:

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It was a black hole of chaos.  Buttons and bobbins, empty spools of thread, and those rubber things you put on your finger so you don’t, well, I’m not sure what they’re for.  When she would ask me to get something from there I would plunge my hand in, fully expecting that my forearm would emerge with needles and pins stuck in it like porcupine quills.  You took a big chance going in.

Tangled and floating and sunk to the bottom were our name tapes.  She would sift through, like panning for gold, until she found the right name to go with the right piece of clothing for each of the three of us.  She would ask me to thread a needle, something now, with my chunky fingers and failing eyesight, I would be hard-pressed to do.  (You’d have to hold a gun to my head to have me figure out how to sew a fallen-off button.)  I would give anything to be sitting next to her, watching as she performed this ritual, year after year, without ever complaining.

Camps still require that everything be labeled.  The advent of the Sharpie has made this much easier.  I began the process in earnest, finding whatever white space there was on inside labels and wrote my daughter’s initials in red.   When some new beach towels I had just bought had no place to write, I held them up and asked her to remember that they were hers.  I began to flounder and figured that she could figure out her underwear and socks (and bras and bathing suits. ) I made a special trip to the store to buy a roll of masking tape to label her toiletries, blow dryer, flatiron and brush.  Just watching me was getting her excited, just like I did when watching my mother do this for me. I picture her, like me for so many summers, sitting on the floor with her bunkmates as a counselor sorts through the clean laundry, finds the names and tosses it to the rightful owner.

Things are very different now for the parents of campers.  We have to fill out reams of paperwork to make sure we can’t sue if our kids trip and crack their heads open, doctor’s have to sign-off that it’s safe to dole out aspirin and calamine lotion. In my day, the nurse would hand out Sudafed and penicillin like it was candy.  I’m sure that if my parents sent me off with a bag of crack no one would ever know.   If a camper shows up at camp with lice or a fever, they have to turn them away.  I’m pretty sure that that would be the reason my parents would bring me there, and leave, dash to the car, and leave screeching, the car kicking up the gravel from the parking lot as they left.  One of my oldest camp friends just reminded me that she caused a massive outbreak of chicken pox rendering her the Ground Zero.  But certain rituals remain sacred, like watching your mother preparing to let go of you for a few weeks or a couple of months, to gain independence and gather memories for a lifetime.

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5 Comments

  1. Karla Rideout

    You just brought back so many memories.  I’m ready to go to camp again.Karla

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  2. Mark Saks

    You got my attention immediately with the photo of Mom’s sewing box, and made me laugh at your description of its contents. Some touching memories…though I might choose to ignore those same ‘camp smells’. Indeed, different now, as you’ll ultimately learn from Amelia. I’m sure she’s having a good time.

  3. Andi Bardino

    Oh, those name tapes. I can still see my mom sewing them in my clothes. I’m sure your daughter’s having a great time. She’s lucky to be there. I’m a little jealous. Wish I could go back to those days.

  4. Dawn Davis

    Camp smells……every time I walk through O’hare in the morning I smell slightly burned toast, which takes me immediately back to summer camp. Which for me ended 40 years ago.

  5. Gayle, I love this blog entry. I remember the “tapes” too — what a nightmare for some moms, I’m sure! We’re so lucky to be able to pass along some of this camp experience to our kids. I feel the next generation will struggle even harder than we do (as parents) at being truly out of touch for long periods of time, off line, etc. I know parents who are scouring the photos every day, like I did, but when Haley went to camp we were lucky to see just one photo in a month! And it was kind of amazing to be reunited when she came home, too.

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